Eyes Wide Open
from Diana Louviere to the National MS Society
met Larry strictly by accident in April of 2003 and knew he had MS
from day one. He was actually in the middle of three days of IV steroids
from a recent relapse. So I walked into a relationship with my eyes
wide open. I never knew anyone with MS before, but I am a breast cancer
survivor, so I have dealt with serious illness. Maybe that was our
Larry and Diana
We are both in our
early 40's and had both been married previously. We went out to dinner
that Saturday night and have been together ever since. After our first
date, I went to your web site and learned about MS. I really never thought
the relationship would go anywhere because we were so different. Then
I had the fear that if I broke up with him, he would think it was because
of his MS. I was worried that I would end up taking care of everything
and resenting it.
We've been through
so much in the 21 months we been together that the MS issues are the least
of it. He's lost a best friend, and uncle and his mother to cancer. Due
to his demanding job, they encouraged him to go on permanent disability.
He lost his roommate and had to deal with trying to afford his house all
by himself with his income cut 40%. So when it comes to fatigue, physical
frustration, multiple medications, bladder dysfunction, and intimacy issues,
we find a way to deal with them together. We have found a way to laugh
every single day.
He's shown me that
love is so much more than a physical connection. I've taught him to deal
with his disabilities without so much anger. We've shown all of the people
in our families that life is worth taking chances even in the face of
an uncertain future. We've taught each other that we can overcome just
about anything if we do it together. I fell in love with a man who completes
my life. He just happens to have MS.
In the 21 months we've
been together he has only had two episodes and both were in the first
6 months of our relationship. I don't know if I can contribute his good
health to my being with him, but I'd love to take some credit. I encourage
him to learn more about his disease, its symptoms and how to adapt to
his disabilities without it changing who he is.
Last weekend Larry
asked me to marry him and I said yes.
Thanks for listening
and thanks for a great web site.